We’re your best friend and we know you better than you know yourself. You have to figure out exactly what’s going to happen when the proverbial cat is out of the bag— your best friend is another female. Explain to your new girlfriend how you know your best friend, where you met, how long you’ve been friends. Like this, “I have a dog, I live in an apartment in Queens, I work at a bakery, I have a son, and my best friend is a girl.” Yeah, we know that seems weird, and it’s probably going to be hard, but if you want to continue your friendship your new relationship this is absolutely vital.The first step is obviously to dump your girlfriend. If you go to fast your gf's best friend might think that you only dated her best friend to get her, which may cause her to think your a player, or just not to like you. And, obviously, it depends if her best friend likes you or not!Which makes the next step really, really hard, particularly if they are close friends. Answer You have a few options: 1) Ask yourself whether you are really in love or just infatuated.If you are just infatuated, then you should keep your distance from the best friend.
And then you should talk to your ex-girlfriend first about whether it would be OK with her if you asked out her friend.
Take it from the girl whose guy best friend just royally failed at this, it’s not that hard. Your female best friend needs to be a part of your discovery conversations with your new girlfriend.
Follow these few steps for an easier “my best friend is a girl” induction process.
Say that your feelings for her have changed and that she deserves someone who can love her properly and have a future with her. You have to decide whether you want to pursue the best friend. For one, it will make it even harder for your ex-girlfriend to get over you. Second, if the best friend is any kind of friend at all, she'll turn you down out of loyalty to your ex-girlfriend.
Third, if the best friend is interested in you, it's even worse because now your ex-girlfriend can't even talk to her best friend about getting over you.