This image is making the rounds on social media right now, boosted by the violently transmisogynistic remarks made on American television recently by comedian Lil Duval.Wherever it’s posted, the comments which follow the image are inevitably loaded with similarly violent transmisogynistic hate, plus a whole lot of the two clichéd arguments that are always used to justify the ‘shitty “no trans allowed” dating policy’: 1. ‘Not wanting to date trans is a legitimate preference’.1.In other words, the bearer holds these beliefs about trans women irrespective of any potential sexual encounter: They represent ignorance at best, bigotry at worst.Refusal to consider the ample evidence which counters these beliefs places the bearer firmly in the class of bigot.(Just to underscore: Trans women are women, we are born women, and we will always be women, whatever the state of our bodies—just as you will always be you, regardless of the state of your body. Tinder, Bumble, Hinge, Ok Cupid, Her (great for lesbian and bisexual women!), Match, The League (if you’re accepted — I just was and am ELATED) — there are so many options!Let’s be clear: We all have legitimate preferences in the bodies we connect with — I myself favour larger men (sorry, you guys under 180cm and 90kg! But when you reject a woman who , one has to wonder what’s really going on here.
Since the start of my dating app days, I have learned a lot about how to navigate these apps in a way that is empowering and builds my confidence rather than doing the opposite. ” “Will he still be interested in me when he sees me in real life?
Indeed, these studies are a rationale for the provision of transition services and the increasing coverage of costs for those services.
Transition saves lives, and the denial of transition kills trans people. The subtext to item 1 is, of course, ‘you shouldn’t be dating’.2.
‘You chose to make yourself undateable.’First, trans is not a choice, it is an involuntary, intractable condition, as a century of research demonstrates.
More recent science increasingly suggests that becoming trans happens in the womb. Now, being born , but —For a great many trans people, transition is a choice in precisely the same way that not killing oneself or seeking treatment for a serious condition is a choice. There are a number of studies demonstrating that, in the identified trans population, transition substantially reduces mental and physical illness, substance abuse, suicidality, and accidental death.