Updated: Nov 13, This is a great question, and so I turned to the research literature for some answers. All 20 studies that I read agreed there needs to be more review of this dynamic, but below I present some important findings. Psychology of Women Quarterly, Sep, Relationships with unequal power balance reported less satisfaction and more problems, but relationships with the ‘butch-femme’ dynamic did not report these inequalities any more than other relationships. Sex Roles, Apr,
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Reentering the dating universe can be a little bumpy, as most anyone can tell you. First you have to negotiate what you want and need within yourself, and then turn outward to see what the beautiful world has to offer you. But one thing is sure, I am a femme woman attracted to masculine women, aka butches. I assume when people talk about roles, they are thinking along the lines of something my mother told me when I was young, when I asked her what a lesbian was.
Butch—femme is not about pretending, or playing at roles. Some people think the butch—femme dynamic is a dying identity, but I beg to differ.
In a study, we assumed that the importance of butch and femme roles for lesbians seeking a relationship would be reflected in the content of.
Through qualitative interviews with 34 young gay men YGM , we seek to contribute to the literature in this area by focusing on the ways that YGM understand and enact sexual positions during anal sex. Ideas of gender appear to inform part of this process; however, YGM critiqued conventional gender norms and emphasized the centrality of relationships i. HIV prevention researchers have long acknowledged the heightened risk of HIV transmission for sexually receptive partners Kingsley et al. Examinations of the decision-making around sexual positioning among adult MSM have yielded some important insights into the explicit and understood ways in which gender roles inform negotiations during anal sex.
In a formative study with male couples, Kippax and Smith asked participants to characterize men who performed as tops and men who performed as bottoms. The couples gave descriptions heavily steeped in assumptions about the overlap between sexual positioning and gender roles. Some participants spoke of the receptive partner as possessing effeminate characteristics, linking the preference for anal receptivity to the hegemonic feminine personality traits assigned to heterosexual women by traditional gender roles i.
These findings suggest that, while attributions of masculinity and femininity are present in MSM sexual encounters, they inadequately capture the dynamics of sexual power between MSM.
I’m Bisexual, I’m Femme, And You Can’t Tell Me Otherwise
There’s a few: Antonia’s Line from the past. Thoughtful, extrovert with occasional introvert tendencies in large groups. I like big gestures and don’t mind being noticed or standing out. A clever, fun and kind femme with a little nod toward the kink and slightly sentimental. Someone that can banter with the best of them and be intentionally coy when the situation calls for it.
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The term describes an erotic and affective dynamic between women who adopt either a primarily masculine or butch gender style or a primarily feminine or femme style. While it is possible to trace similar behaviors and identifications in different cultures and in various historical moments, the importance of gender cross-identification in understanding same-sex relations spiked in Germany, England, and the United States at the end of the nineteenth century with the rise of sexology, a pseudo-scientific study of sex and gender.
The writings of important sexologists such as Richard von Krafft-Ebing, Karl Heinrich Ulrichs, and Havelock Ellis focused on the figure of the sexual invert: the woman who was actually a man, and the man who was actually a woman. In these writings, the female invert emerges as the iconic figure of female same-sex desire. With her active sexual desires and masculine gender style, she longs for a feminine partner with whom she can complete herself as a man.
What is much harder to explain within the sexological framework is the desire of a feminine woman for a masculine woman or female invert. In their important history of the lesbian community in Buffalo, New York in the s and s, social anthropologist Elizabeth Lapovsky Kennedy and activist and historian Madeline D. Because, as Newton points out, women in the nineteenth century were not associated with sexuality or desire but rather with its absence , looking like a man was one clear strategy for twentieth-century lesbians to signal their desire for other women.
Do Butch and Femme Still Attract?
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Reentering the dating universe can be a little bumpy, as most anyone can tell you. First, you have to negotiate what you want and need within yourself, and then turn outward to see what the beautiful world has to offer you. But in my case, one thing is sure, I am a femme woman attracted to masculine women and in particular, butches.
I assume when people talk about roles, they are thinking along the lines of something my mother told me when I was young when I asked her what a lesbian was. Some people think the butch—femme dynamic is a dying identity, but I beg to differ. Butch—femme lives and evolves and is a legitimate choice for relating and connecting with a sexual partner. A tired criticism of butch—femme is that it tries to mimic a patriarchal relationship structure , with a powerful male figure, and a submissive female figure.
As a femme lesbian, I can tell you that I like to get my nails done, wear dresses when I want to look beautiful, and always keep a lipstick in my purse. But I am also incredibly strong and self-sufficient.
The Tomboy/Femme Dynamic
Femme is also frequently used in the transgender community, see En femme. The terms butch and femme often are used to describe lesbians or gay men, though, less commonly, they can be used to describe straight men and women also. The term butch often is used to describe certain lesbians, though the term is also used for gay men. Butch can entail short-cropped hair, overtly masculine clothes including possibly military dress, attitude involving deliberate machismo, and chivalry.
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To be honest, I dated her with the intention of experimentation. I was intrigued by the butch-femme dynamic that seemed to be so steeped in lesbianism and wanted to see what it would be like. Looking back, I realize how shallow and selfish I was to use her in satisfying my own curiosity, but the universe got me back when I ended up falling hard for a woman who had never so much as used concealer to cover a zit. I had no choice but to broaden my perspective in order to see things through her eyes.
My intention is to provide you with things to consider when choosing to date a butch woman; things that you might not have considered before. All guidelines go out the window if you are not in a safe and equitable relationship. These rules are only to be followed if you have a mutual trust and respect. I am presuming that, in choosing your partner, you have found someone who makes it her priority to maintain the best interest of your relationship. If not, the rules are clearly not applicable.
Butch women are well aware of how the world views them.
Butch Femme Dynamic
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This study explores how self-identified butch and femme lesbian women define themselves and The butch/femme dynamic has been described as both a conformist “imitation Interview # ______ Date: ______ Time: ______. Age:_____.
Butch and femme are terms used in the lesbian subculture  to ascribe or acknowledge a masculine butch or feminine femme identity with its associated traits, behaviors, styles, self-perception, and so on. This concept has been called a “way to organize sexual relationships and gender and sexual identity”. Both the expression of individual lesbians of butch and femme identities and the relationship of the lesbian community in general to the notion of butch and femme as an organizing principle for sexual relating varied over the course of the 20th century.
The word femme is taken from the French word for woman. The word butch , meaning “masculine”, may have been coined by abbreviating the word butcher , as first noted in George Cassidy’s nickname, Butch Cassidy. There is debate about to whom the terms butch and femme can apply, and particularly whether transgender individuals can be identified in this way.
For example, Jack Halberstam argues that transgender men cannot be considered butch, since it constitutes a conflation of maleness with butchness. He further argues that butch—femme is uniquely geared to work in lesbian relationships. On the other hand, writer Jewelle Gomez mused that butch and femme women in the earlier twentieth century may have been expressing their closeted transgender identity. Scholars such as Judith Butler and Anne Fausto-Sterling suggest that butch and femme are not attempts to take up “traditional” gender roles.